Fear of Confrontation

Many people these days fear to confront someone for various reasons. In particular many Malaysian have the fear of confrontation. In a research done, about 28% of Malaysians have the fear of confrontation. Fear of confrontation is the fear of meeting someone face to face because of various reasons such as fear of rejection, guilty and anger.

Many of us fear rejection especially when proposing to someone or asking someone something. Usually we get the fear of rejection because the other person has higher authority than us. Furthermore, we are afraid that we will get embarrassed if the person rejects us face to face. We want to safe our face that's the reason we always shy away.We rather use emails, hand phones or other communicating devices.

Besides that we sometimes feel that we have done something wrong and we are too guilty to apologize. We tend to run away from the person that we have done something to. It always wrong to run away if we have done something wrong but sad to say some of us still don't hold the truth and run away. We should face the facts and clarify the problems to avoid futher problems.

In conclusion, we should always solve the problem and should not fear confronting with somebody because if we do that we lose alot in many ways.

By,

Roshaan.

Learn to swim people!!

Something I learnt from the leadership camp which was held last week is that we should know how to swim!! During the white water rafting event, I was terrified because I couldn't swim and I didn’t know how to communicate with the others while in the water. Now I know that learning how to swim is one of the most important skills we should learn for safety, as well as for fun and exercise.

Like the say we never know until we experience it; its really difficult trying to communicate with your teammates when your afraid of what’s going to take place next. I noticed that learning how to swim it helps develop one’s confidence;for an instance two of my fellow teammates who knew how to swim was very laid-back and chilled unlike me and another fellow teammate who was worried about what's gonna happen next. The ones who knew how to swim were very confident.

To those who don’t know how to swim and haven’t been to the leadership camp yet! I strongly suggest u to learn basic swimming ;) Trust me!! Its not a very pleasant experience of nearly drowning few times even though u have a life jacket on your are not guarantee that you’ll be save. Learning to swim is a definitely important and it helps u communicate better in the water but remember that it takes time and practice.

by

Kaminie

Lack of communication

Communication and relationship go everywhere and strongly influence human activity; from war and peace among nations to whether matrimony works, from political action to personal friendship.

Lack of communication is perhaps the most common and one of the most deadly forms of relationship trouble. Good communication serves to bring people closer together. When partners consistently fail to communicate well, they slowly become strangers. Much of what happens in our own lives, our communities, and world events alike depends on personal strengths and weaknesses in communicating, connecting, and interacting with others. Lost opportunities, poor leadership and negotiation, unhappy relationships, and even suicide can result due to lack of communication.

Often in a relationship, we think we understand the other person, we respond accordingly, then the other person thinks they know what we mean, they respond, and we are off to the races, so to speak. But in reality communicating means really listening to each other and it involves both parties.

Here's a simple 4 step process for improving communication between partners:
Step 1 - Partner 1 talks about something.
Step 2 - Partner 2 repeats what they heard and then asks if they got it.
Step 3 - Partner 1 then has three options:
- Yes, you got it.
- You got one part, and missed this part.
- You did not get it at all.
You then repeat steps 1 through 3 until partner 2 gets it.
Step 4 - When both people agree that the message was received, partner 2 talks about their thoughts and feelings about what was said. Now partner 1 repeats steps 2 and 3 until they get it. And so on.

This feels awkward at first. Give it some time because it works. We should communicate more with people, remember we do not lose anything by communicating with others but we definitely gain something by communicating.

by Kaminie

Culture and Human Communication

The definition for "Culture" is that it consists of beliefs, ways of behaving, and artifacts of a group of people. Culture is transferred from one person to another person through communication and learning rather than through genes, as a person would not be born with the knowledge of cultures.

Gender is considered a major cultural variable factor because cultures teach boys and girls different usually opposite attitudes,beliefs, values, and ways of communicating and relating to one another in their life. For example, it is generally not acceptable for male to cry in public while on the other hand if a female were to cry in public it is much more acceptable since it is a general believe that females are more emotional than male. How we act in our life today, a large part of it is taught by our culture such as how to act as a man or woman.

In today's modern world, gender roles are slowly changing. A great deal of men, for example does much more housekeeping chores and caring for their children when in contrast, more women are now becoming more visible in fields of work once occupied only exclusively by men for example - politics, law enforcement, the military and fire fighting. Also women are now increasing in numbers in the corporate executive ranks which once only dominated by men.

The way we communicate are heavily influenced by the culture which we were raised making culture highly relevant to communication and it also produce a cultural perspective in each of us.
Below are reasons why culture is important :

• Demographic changes ( The characteristics of human populations and population segments)
• Increased sensitivity to cultural differences
  
• Economic interdependency
• Advances in communication technology

As can be seen above, it is impossible to communicate effectively without being aware of how culture influences human, which is our communication.

by Leong Sze Huang

Human Communication

It is my first time to understand about communication.

In my opinion before, I think communication only is the people talk to anther people, but if it is really easy, why in the realy social the most people still have the interpersonal relationship problem, and why some people have lots of friends? When I had frist class of human communication, I learned something althouth it is basic class.

Speak: when you want to tell to someone, firstly you have to make a draft in the own brain and choose the correct words. then clearly to tell the people.

Listan: try to listan clearly when the someone to tell you, and sit the other side of the speaker understand what is the speaker's opinion.

Actually communication has lots of problem, for example the language, the culture, the power dimension and involves content of relationships. but I think if everyone want to have a good communication relationships with someone, all the question can be to solve. This class realy help me a lot.

By Duan Li Wei (Viola)

Human Communication

Human Communication, also known as Anthroposemiotics, is to study how human communicate with themselves, other peoples within a groups and organization. There are 5 types of human communication. Intrapersonal communication is an individual become his/her own sender and receiver. Interpersonal communication is carry message from sender to receiver. Group dynamic is many individuals are connected with each other by social relationships. Organizational communication is an analysis and criticism of the role of communication in organization. The last but not least, cross-culture communication is a study of look at how people from different culture and background communicate with each other.

Birhdays.....

How have you celebrated your birthday. Mine was just 2 days ago. It was awesome, thanks to all my friends. Many of my friends and relatives were there. I noticed that everyone was so happy. Even if they were not smiling their body language showed it. Some of them were happy and excited because they saw some other friends after a long time. They were talking like there was no tomorrow. That showed me that they did not see each other for a long time and they are so happy seeing each other now.

Occasions like this are always good because people make new friends, old friends have a good time and its a good break for us who are stressed up everyday. Events like this are also good in a way because people learn new cultures.they learn how people live and what background people come from.In conclusion, birthdays are occasions where people communicate and be happy.

By,

Roshaan.

why study human communication

Why we study human communication? I think the reason is, it is a way or solutions for people to communicate better. In our daily life, we are affected by our own communication. We communicate with other to exchange the news and come to understand other people feeling. In my opinion, human communication is a useful subject, because it can make our relationship with family, friends and others people more stable. I just started my journey to learn this subject, and I don’t know how far I can go and I learn. I didn’t learn must in this 2 weeks my I try my best to absorb all the information l have learnt. So I just stop my post here, and will be continued.

by: miki loke mei chi

Listening in Communication

Usually people do not realize the importance of listening in communication , because they tend to focus more on their speaking believing that good speaking alone is enough for good communication. Having the ability to speak well is necessary skill to successful communication but having the ability to listen well is as equally important in communication.

When we are having a conversation with a friend, for example, when they are telling us something but we end up letting our mind wander, thinking maybe about chores that are not yet done rather than fully concentrating on what the friend. In this kind of situation, we are not likely to get much out of what we heard from the person , probably even treat what has been said a mere buzzing sound and nothing more. Ever find yourself in a situation where you mindlessly saying "Mm.." & "Uh huh" when another person is speaking to you, but you later ask "I'm sorry, can you repeat that?" or "I'm sorry what did you say?" ?



The above are prime examples of poor listening skills. When we listen actively to what a person is saying only can we interpret the message that the person is trying to pass. Certainly active listening needs conscious effort and there is no easy way around it. In order for our communication skills to improve, we cannot let our mind daydream or wander while we are in a conversation but to keep actively interpret the proper message and make meaning out of what the other person is saying. The main point of listening in the first place would be to get a meaning, a correct one of course, out of the other party. Therefore poor listening skills can lead to misunderstandings which can destroy even very close relationships.

As a conclusion, good listeners are usually some of the best speakers because they have taken the effort and spend time to find out and understand what others are interested in,also the main points others are trying to make. By understanding what is important to other people, then only we can reach them.

by Leong Sze Huang

The diference between a friend and a true friend.

Everyone in this world has a friend. Friendship is something very special. We should treasure friendship. For some of us first we become friends then the element of love comes in, in that case that cannot be called friendship. Friends are people all of us have eventhough we are married, single or a student.There is a diference between just friends and true friends.

Being just friends with somebody is simple. That means you do not share anything with you're friend. The person who is just a friend is not someone we talk to when we are lonely. When we are hurt or in trouble this friend might or might not help us. This relationship is called friendship but only at the surface level. Some of us tend to keep friends as just friends because of many personal diferences. Sometimes some friends just stay as friends because of the rumours we know about them. This can affect friendship.

Everyone can be our friend but only some of them can become our true friends. A true friend is someone we can count on when we are in need of help. We share all our secrets with our true friends. A true friend is someone we talk to when we are lonely. A true friend is also someone who helps us when we are in trouble or when we are hurt. A true friend will also understand us eventhough in any circumstances. A true is very understanding and caring and a true friend can also be the opposite gender.

As a conclusion, we can have many friends but only some of them will become our true friends. We should not take our friends for granted and we should treasure friendship.

By,

Roshaan

What I Think of Communication

Communication is a process of passing message or information from one entity to another, which in our case as human beings, to assign and convey meaning in an attempt to create shared understanding. Human communication requires a vast repertoire of skills that consists of :

• Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Processing
• Listening
• Observing
• Speaking
• Questioning
• Analyzing
• Evaluating

All the skills mentioned above are developmental and transfers to all areas of our life for example when at home, school, in a community and work. In order for collaboration and cooperation to occur we need effective communication in the first place. For relationships among humans to begin, communication is the first thing required of. Imagine a world where everyone do their own task without even merely looking at another person at all, not a single sound of communication uttered from their throat for another to hear until their last day in this world. What a scary world it would be, no? After imagining that, I find that even small chit chats,gestures, even eye contact can add so much more colors to our life.


Without effective communication, a situation in the picture below is most likely to occur :

In a nutshell, with effective communication we can achieve so much more in life whereas ineffective communication would greatly limit our opportunities in life. There is this phrase of "No man is an island", which means that we as human need to interact and communicate to satisfy what we desire be it, needs, knowledge or to simply express ourselves. Would anyone still doubt the importance of communication?

by Leong Sze Huang